Det korte svaret
1 000 til 2 500 kroner
Snittet for alle gjester ligger rundt 1 700 kroner. Nær familie gir mer, venner og kolleger mindre. Tre av fire gjester gir under 1 500.
The amount depends on your relationship, not how lavish the wedding is. A guest who has travelled far and paid for a hotel isn’t expected to give more than someone living next door — if anything, quite the opposite.
Hva gir folk, etter relasjon
| Relasjon | Snittbeløp |
|---|---|
| Close family | ca. 2 500 kr |
| Forlover | ca. 2 000 kr |
| Other family | ca. 1 750 kr |
| Friends and acquaintances | ca. 1 300 kr |
| Snitt for alle gjester | ca. 1 700 kr |
But the average is a bit misleading
The average is pulled up by a minority who give a lot. Looking at what people actually give, the bulk is lower:
| Beløp | Andel av gjestene |
|---|---|
| 500–999 kr | 38 % |
| 1 000–1 499 kr | 37 % |
| 1 500–2 499 kr | 14 % |
Three out of four guests give under 1,500 kroner. If you’re there, you’re where most people are.
De tilfellene folk lurer mest på
As best man
Around 2,000 kroner on average. But best men usually spend many hours planning, preparing speeches and organising the stag party — that effort counts, and many best men consciously give less money for that reason.
As siblings
Around 2,500 kroner if you give alone. Often siblings chip in together for one bigger gift instead, like an experience or a contribution to the honeymoon.
As a couple
Common practice is to give one gift from both of you, preferably towards the upper end of the range for your relationship. Not two separate gifts.
When you have to travel far
Give less. Travel, accommodation and outfit for a destination wedding often cost more than the gift itself, and it’s widely accepted that the gift is adjusted down accordingly.
When you can’t come
Send a gift anyway if you’re close. An amount at the lower end of the range, with a greeting saying you wish you could be there, is more than enough.
Penger, gavekort eller gjenstand?
Wish lists often exist, and then you use them. Without a wish list, money or gift cards are safest: most couples live together before the wedding and already have what they need of glasses, pots and towels.
- Does the couple have a wish list? Use it. It’s the one time guessing isn’t necessary.
- Are they saving for a honeymoon or a home? Then a sum of money is the most appreciated gift, no matter how it feels to give.
- Want to give something lasting? An experience they can share together beats another set of glasses.
- Write the sender's name on the envelope. Couples getting married who want to thank afterwards are very grateful for that.
Hva skriver du i kortet?
We’ve gathered 18 greetings for the couple in what to write in a wedding card, and 12 original poems in poems for the bridal couple.
If several are chipping in, the procedure is in joint gift. And if you’re going to a confirmation too, the corresponding figures are in how much to give for a confirmation gift.
Kilder
The amounts above are based on SpareBank 1 Østlandet’s nationally representative survey from 2025, reported by DNB Nyheter and Nettavisen among others. The figures are updated when new surveys are published.